inFertile Life

Supporting people with fertility and involuntary childlessness challenges live fulfilling lives!

This is how you can increase your chances with IVF or surrogacy


In a time when fertility treatments are very limited in the NHS and expensive in the private sector, we need to think outside the box and come up with innovative ideas to increase our chances of success with these techniques.

So what can we do to increase our chances?

As a professional nurse and fertility coach, I know there is a lot that is in our hands!

We live our lives rushing, between jobs, traffic, fast food, stress, anxiety… and we don’t stop to think about how that life style is affecting our bodies. We then try to conceive and our body doesn’t have the right balance to carry a child. This challenge adds to the already ongoing daily stresses and the more we try, the less success we achieve.

It is well know that if we have more than four negative lifestyles, we are 7 times less likely to be successful with fertility.

My proposal is that everyone who is currently struggling with fertility, goes through a process of fertility coaching. We work on unresourceful states (stress, anxiety, anger, resentment, frustration) and lifestyle choices (diet, exercise, habits) that are known to impair fertility. By supporting you to make these changes and maintaining them, you will improve the quality of your eggs and sperm, and you will increase your chances of getting pregnant and staying pregnant.

Take control, and increase your chances so that when you reach the point of your IVF or surrogacy cycles, you will be certain that your probability of success is as high as it can be! Don’t waste those limited options without improving your chances first!

If you want to learn more about how you can do that, get in touch today.

Andreia Trigo

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inFertile Life Event 11th November 2017 – book now!



The journey of infertility and childlessness can often be very lonely. Noticing the importance of networking to overcome the same challenges, we created the inFertile Life Event!

You will learn the strategies and tools to move forward in your journey. You will also get an extra boost of energy, confidence and happiness, amongst people who share the same challenges and concerns. It’s an experience unlike any other where transformational change takes place! We often hear that “Knowledge is Power” but that couldn’t be more far from the truth, otherwise we’d be ok just using Google! In fact, “Experiential knowledge is Power”! It’s when you do things and participate that you learn and gain the Power within you! At inFertile Life events, you will learn how to transform several aspects of your life from health, emotions, and relationships, to your life’s purpose. You will also learn how to break free from your fears and self-limiting beliefs so you can feel empowered. You will create momentum to overcome life challenges easily. And you will retune your focus and energy into amazing relationships, with yourself and others.

Don’t miss this opportunity, book now!

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‘Fertility coaching’: can it help women conceive?


When Anya Sizer was enduring IVF, her sessions of 'Fertility coaching' were a lifeline. Emma Jones reports on this new alternative therapy.

Anya Sizer’s garden is scattered with toys – just the way she always wanted it. Yet there were moments when this happy scene with Hope, five, and Barney, 22 months, was a distant dream. Soon after marrying at 23, she and her husband Damion started trying for a baby. But when months went by, they decided to investigate.

The result was devastating: tests showed that Damion had azoospermia, where there is no sperm in the ejaculate. The couple were given a one in 125,000 chance of getting pregnant and told that IVF was unlikely to help. “It was like someone had hit me,” says Sizer. “You have to suddenly face issues you never thought you’d ever have to think about.”

They decided to give IVF a try anyway, and Sizer became pregnant on the first attempt. Having always dreamt of a big family, however, there was another blow when she was diagnosed as pre-menopausal and found to be producing only a limited number of eggs. They underwent another four rounds of IVF and, after two miscarriages, Sizer fell pregnant with Barney.

During her six-year struggle, Sizer explored every avenue possible that might help them conceive. “It becomes like a really sick hobby,” she says. “All of our life was either acupuncture, eating healthily or coaching. You become so tunnel-visioned unless you really work at it. From the outside, I think people don’t understand what it’s like, how focused and one-tracked you can become.”

It is an increasingly common experience among British women; with an IVF success rate of only one in four using fresh eggs, couples are looking at alternative ways to aid their fertility. The one thing Sizer felt was really beneficial was talking to a fertility coach, who focuses on the emotions and insecurities evoked by infertility and IVF.

“It helps you to regain a sense of control and restore hope,” Sizer explains. “It’s great for people who are stuck in a pattern of behaviour. It’s solution-focused, not problem-focused, so you are not looking at how awful it is you feel but how you’d like to feel. Many therapies would go to the heart of the issue, whereas coaching will say, ‘OK, that happened to you – are there ways we can make that safer, and what do you want your life to look like now?'”

After research into different schools of thought, she found a coaching style based on the principles of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). This technique can help to make sense of overwhelming problems by breaking them down into smaller parts. How you think about a problem can affect how you feel physically and emotionally.

Not only can CBT help couples regain a positive attitude, there is even evidence it can help them conceive. A study by researchers from Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia, found that CBT can aid fertility by reducing anxiety, which often inhibits ovulation.

They took 16 women who had not had a period in six months and had all been diagnosed with functional hypothalamic amenorrhoea – a condition in which the hormone that triggers ovulation has been at a very low level. Half were given CBT for 20 weeks and half were merely observed. At the end of this, six out of the eight women given CBT regained full fertility and two of them became pregnant within two months. In the eight women who didn’t, only one recovered her fertility.

For many women having fertility treatment, coaching feels like a lifeline in a sea of hopelessness. Marina Nicholas, 39, says that her experience of CBT turned her life around. She was suffering from endometriosis, and was feeling hopeless after four failed attempts at IVF. “After four years of doctors telling me incredibly negative things, I had a serious bout of depression. I was surrounded by negative feedback and these are the professionals, so you believe what they say,” she explains.

“Through CBT I was able to change the way I looked at myself. By the eighth or ninth session, I was feeling so confident with all the positive reinforcement. I became pregnant naturally, and although I miscarried, it was the first time I looked on it as a positive turning point, as I knew I could do it.”

Nicholas went on to receive one more round of IVF treatment and become the proud mother of Bruno, now four. Since then, she has written a book, Three Steps to Fertility.

Drawing on her own experiences, and her background as a BACP-accredited counsellor, Sizer decided to train as a fertility coach. It is common, she says, for high-achieving women, in particular, to feel a loss of control during IVF treatment, and for these women it can be very difficult to accept that their body is letting them down. “I looked at what I’d most needed and talked to people from clinics and friends who had been through infertility and the same issues came up – self-belief, self-worth, regaining a sense of hope about your life as a whole.

“I help them look at alternative therapies, what family and friends they have for support. Success rates rise with that. People feel more in control, hormones start to balance and the body starts working better.”

Fertility coaching is about much more than just improving the chances of conception, however. “The end goal isn’t pregnancy, funnily enough; the end result is you retaining a sense of who you are,” says Sizer. “Pregnancy would be wonderful, and let’s really, really work towards that, but if you have pregnancy and you’ve lost who you are, there’s no point in it.”

According to HFEA guidelines, everyone receiving IVF treatment should be offered counselling, but those who do usually receive only one or two sessions. Dr Jo Perkins, a chartered psychologist, did her doctoral research into the psychology of fertility. “Often infertility becomes so medicalised that people don’t see it as something you need counselling for. And a lot of the counselling they receive is therapeutic support work rather than dynamic, looking forward.”

Although she believes that counselling should be tailored to the individual and people will benefit from different approaches, she thinks cognitive behavioural therapy has a role to play. “In my experience, it is a fantastic model for working with dysfunctional feelings. Women, especially, often find they have a sense of failure, which gives rise to unhelpful assumptions such as, ‘I’m not a real woman.’ It becomes a negative cycle and downward spiral. But if you can work with that to see they are not truths and challenge their thought process, you can change their behaviour.”

The overwhelming response in Dr Perkins’s research was that couples isolated themselves and their emotions and wished they had sought support earlier.

Sheena Young, from the Infertility Network, says the psychological and emotional effects of the IVF process can become overwhelming. “It affects every single part of their life. Their whole life revolves around investigations and treatments and it’s such a private thing that people tend to isolate themselves and feel they can’t turn to family and friends.”

She says that you can’t underestimate how hard the treatment is to deal with, or how much you need help to cope with it. “There is no greater thing that a couple can go through together. It makes or breaks a relationship. Take all the support you can get, no matter where you get it from – it’s a very difficult journey.”

  • It helps you to regain a sense of control and restore hope
  • It feels like a lifeline in a sea of hopelessness
  • I was able to change the way I looked at myself and became pregnant naturally
  • Infertility challenges our self-belief and self-worth, coaching helps regain a sense of hope about your life as a whole
  • People feel more in control, hormones start to balance and the body starts working better

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inFertile Life 11th November 2017

Really exciting news! I have 50 tickets to give away for free, so email me to claim yours! 🙂

The event of a life time!


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Whether you believe in God, the Universe, or an Energy beyond us human beings, you know there is always a silver lining in whatever happens to us. Things always work out, and the puzzle always makes sense by the end. So if you’ve lost hope today, please know that what’s awaiting you is so much better than your dreams! Xx



Sometimes we are so stuck in our own problems and ways of doing things, that our goals seem impossible. That’s when a coach can help you! We help you see options that are around you but you’re struggling to see right now!

Choose hope


Just because you can choose to believe whatever you want to believe, choose hope. Why not? 🙂

Let that s**t go!


Letting go of what you can’t control, is actually a way of regaining control in your life!

It’s a way of opening your mind to new options, new ways of doing and achieving your dreams! But first you need to let that s**t that has been controlling your life go!

Fertility coaching can help you deal with values and beliefs that aren’t being helpful, so you can let go of what was and be in control of what will be!

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being excited about what could go right!


What you focus on expands! If you focus on your fears, on what could go wrong, that’s what you’ll attract into your life. But if you focus on what could go right, the world will be yours!

If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan but never the goal! Ultimate success formula!


The formula of success if very simple:

1- identify your goal, clear vision of what you want to achieve

2- take massive, consistent action every day towards your goal

3- measure your progress

4- adjust the plan

And in your fertility journey, it’s exactly the same! You might need to change your plan to get to your goal, and that’s how fertility coaching can help! We support you in identifying the goal, planning and taking action, measuring progress and adjusting the plan as needed!

I am in this with you…



That’s what fertility coaching is for… a safe place to talk about your struggles, to share your tears and to plan for the future Xx

No amount of guilt can solve the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future!


No amount of guilt can solve the past and no amount of anxiety can change the future.

Just let go of what was and have faith in what will be. You’ll be surprised by the amazing things life will bring you!

Worrying doesn’t tale away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.


Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.

So don’t lose your time thinking about the past, or worrying about the future. Just appreciate the present moment, with all the great things it has. Acknowledge and be grateful for everything that you are and have. Be at peace. #hope

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